Your Home Is Your Sanctuary, Make It So

Peaceful home

You wake up to the sound of your alarm already in discomfort.

Your anxiety has your heart pounding and your mind racing about the day ahead of you.

A quick morning routine complete and you are off on your way to work.

Upon arriving, you are greeted by the uncomfortable familiarity of your workplace.

This isn’t somewhere you want to be, especially when you are already working the full-time job of managing your anxiety levels.

The atmosphere, your boss, the work itself…All something you want nothing to do with.

Thankfully, like every other day, it ends and you get to go home.

All of your energy is exhausted. You need something to look forward to.


Your home is like a choose your own adventure game.

You either look forward to going home or you dread it more than the workplace you spend your day in.

In one story line, it is messy, stressful, and further adds to your anxiety issues. This type of home sets the rest of your day up for more discomfort.

In the other, more pleasurable story line, you have a peaceful home. Your house is somewhere you come to escape the stresses of the day and catch up on some much-needed relaxation.

This peaceful home recharges your biological battery and further restores some optimism to your day.

It is quite obvious which story we would all like to live in but how can we make our home somewhere we look forward to spending time in?

A home so pleasurable that a single red light on the way home feels like a wasted minute that could be spent in your oasis.

If this is something missing from your life, here are a few steps to begin building your anxiety free monastery.


Improve Your Relationships At Home

The people you live with will dictate your living space more than anything else.

They are the one constant that will always be there, night or day, rain or shine.

If your kids immediately bother you about dinner as soon as you get home from work, you have already lost some peace.

If you have constant arguments with your partner, it is going to be extremely difficult to enjoy yourself during your evening hours.

Repair any relationships you can and set boundaries that need to be set.

Out of all the tips listed, this will take the most time and effort. It isn’t always easy to repair a relationship that took years to drift and it is even harder to teach a kid patience.

The amount of effort you manage to put in to improve your relationships at home will directly relate to how comfortable your home really is.

A home where nobody gets along well is stale and cold. A unified family will bring warmth to all areas of your life, well beyond your home.


Keep Your House Tidy

A messy house is a stressful house.

Clutter creates tripping hazards, visual distractions, hiding spots for important items, and most importantly a constant reminder you aren’t in control.

When dealing with anxiety, simple things like making your bed or keeping your house clean provide you just an ounce of control that other areas of your life seem to be lacking.

With a messy house, all of the other suggestions here aren’t nearly as effective. For a peaceful home, tidiness is essential.

Think of all of the most peaceful places you have been. Was even a single one of them untidy?


Experiment With Essential Oils

Peaceful home

Essential Oils have gained a lot of popularity in recent years.

There are certain scents touted to help ease anxiety or depression.

While it may be a bit of a stretch, these oils and scents do a wonderful job of creating the relaxing atmosphere we are talking about.

If you find the smell of a pine forest to be soothing, you can have that anywhere you go in your home.

Should the smell of the ocean immediately make you feel at ease, you can have that at your disposal.

While these ironically aren’t essential to your home, when combined with the other suggestions, they can be quite therapeutic.


Relaxation Exercises/Positive Energy

Once you have created a home which begins to feel relaxing, it is critical you begin to practice relaxation.

Energy, either positive or negative, seems to be absorbed by your surroundings.

You know that feeling when you walk into work, your senses remind you where you are, and your stress levels immediately elevate?

It is almost as though your brain has stored the negative emotions you experience at work and immediately releases them back at you when triggered.

Our goal is to do the opposite at home. We want your home to wrap you in a warm blanket of peace.

When you walk through your front door it should be like a shower, washing the stress right off of your body.

If your anxiety follows you everywhere you go, we need to at least learn to calm it while at home.

A great place to start is meditation.

Practice focusing on your breathing without trying too hard.

Turn on your essential oils and some music to match the scents.

Let your senses guide you to a tranquil place of your choosing. Feel the positive emotions and let them stir inside of you.

There is no time limit. Stay here as long as you’d like. This is your home.

Find time to practice this every day and you will begin to associate your home with these peaceful feelings.


In Conclusion

If anxiety has become a big part of your life, you need to take a step back and look at the place you spend the most time.

Our home is our sanctuary and, with a little bit of effort, can reintroduce some stability into our chaotic lives.

Take a few extra minutes a day to make sure that your home really feels like home.

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About the Author

My name is Regan Jacklin and I managed to overcome 10 years of depression and anxiety with the methods talked about on this site. I love to read, play sports, travel, cook, and most importantly, challenge myself. I hope you find the content on this site helpful!

Leave a Reply 4 comments

Peter - 14/07/2017 Reply

Awesome post Regan.

I especially like the point about a tidy home. To this day I am still guilty of this but I am trying to get better so that is the most important part.

I am not sure if you have heard of Jordan Peterson but he is an advocate of cleaning your ‘damn room’ as he would say haha. In his words, we have teenagers who want to fix the world economy but they can’t even keep their personal space in order.

I thought this was very telling and displays how much people resent changing themselves.

Keep it up man.

    Regan - 15/07/2017 Reply

    Thanks, Peter! Funny you mention this, recently I have incorporated cleaning my room for five minutes every morning and it has completely changed the way I approach laziness for the rest of the day. Keeping your space clean goes well beyond the appearance. It comes back to the idea that winning is a habit and “cleaning your damn room” instills good habits at an extremely easy level.

Vinn - 18/07/2017 Reply

Keeping my house tidy has made my mind tidy.

My work space cannot be a mess. if it is, so will my art.


    Regan - 19/07/2017 Reply

    Couldn’t agree more. It is like trying to look through a dirty window and expecting full clarity

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