Do you spend a lot of time on social platforms such as Facebook or Instagram?
Would it come as any surprise if I told you social platforms could be making your depression worse?
Social media can flood you with emotions of jealousy, discontent and low self esteem, yet so many of us still find ourselves on these websites daily just killing time.
Rather than taking time to acquire the life we dream of, we stare at a screen admiring people who have already done it.
This does nothing to improve our self worth, move us closer to our goals, or improve our happiness.
To make matters worse, the dream lives of others we are viewing are nothing more than highlights of their lives.
Let’s take a look at how social media can make us feel worse than we already do.
Jealousy, Discontent, and Pressure
When spending time on social platforms you constantly see people who are happy and seemingly living the dream.
These people seem to have everything!
They are out having fun, they have a large social group, the most attractive partner, etc.
You look at them and think: “why don’t I have that?” or “why can’t I be more like them?”
What the world doesn’t tell you is that the feed you are wasting your time scrolling through is just highlights of peoples lives.
Besides a tragedy like the loss of a family member, how often do people post about negative things in their lives?
Sure there may be that one person who screams for attention, but I am talking about in general.
People want their lives to look attractive
Imagine two scenarios;
#1 The Single Person
You are a young single person, that being said you are definitely on the lookout for a partner.
Since you have many friends of the opposite sex on social media, you use your Facebook to make your life look enticing!
With an attractive looking lifestyle, it appears as though you would offer a pretty fun relationship.
Often reality offers a much different perspective.
Sure you may actually have a lot of friends and go to some big parties on the weekends, but you are far from content with your life.
Maybe you really hate your job or have no clue what you’re doing with your life. Would you post this on Facebook?
Perhaps you even deal with depression or anxiety but are too scared to tell anyone about it. Those crazy weekend parties on Facebook are simply your way of escaping reality.
This certainly wouldn’t make the Facebook feed.
#2 The Perfect Relationship
Of course every relationship looks perfect on social media.
Now imagine this is you in the relationship.
Would you post about how much you and your partner argue behind closed doors?
First of all, your partner likely wouldn’t appreciate you sharing this information.
Secondly, some people may even view this as an opportunity to get closer to your loved one and take advantage of the current weakness in your relationship.
Now, if we are going to post pictures at all, we are only left with one option…
Social Media Is Just Highlights
I have been blessed enough to spend some time travelling. I saw some amazing places, met some amazing friends, and had many great experiences.
Guess what? A lot of it ended up on Facebook.
You wouldn’t believe how many people back home told me I was living the dream.
While I had some of the best times of my life I still dealt with anxiety. I dreaded having to return home to a job I hated and I missed my girlfriend everyday.
Life was good, but life is never perfect.
If you choose to use social media you must remember this: Everyone goes through tough times in their life at one point or another. These tough times just usually don’t end up on social media.
In reality everyone is discontent with some area of their lives. It is human nature and is what causes us to make improvements within ourselves and in our lives.
Social Media and Self Esteem
Your self esteem can be chipped away pretty quick if you spend too much time on social platforms.
Do you feel down on yourself because you have less friends than most people?
Are you uncomfortable with your weight or height?
Do you judge your self-worth by the amount of materials you possess?
Social Media paints terrible images in our minds of what real happiness and self worth looks like.
According to Instagram you have to have the newest sports car, washboard abs, an entourage, and a private island.
Stop letting social media lie to you.
Real happiness comes from within. You have to learn to be content with yourself first and understand that material objects and fake facades will not increase your self esteem.
If there is something you want in life, stop wasting time being envious of other people and start working for it.
Focus on you, never on them – Nick Kelly
Do you want to be fit? More financially stable? In a fantastic relationship?
If yes, then what are you waiting for? Start making steps today so you can be there next year!
Twitter wont help you, unfortunately.
Social Media Keeps Us Inside
Remember when you were young and social media wasn’t around?
Did you stay inside all day? I know I didn’t.
Weather permitting, I was outside everyday hanging out with the kids in my local area.
We played ball hockey, soccer, rode bikes, went swimming and so on.
I would always find myself outside, enjoying fresh air and nature.
As adults it is harder to find the time but it isn’t any less essential to feeling good.
Social Media is robbing many people of this quality outdoor time, leaving you in a dark and stuffy room.
At the end of the day, you don’t feel like you have accomplished anything. That won’t help your self worth one bit!
I challenge you to abandon all social platforms for an entire month.
It may be tough at first but when you realize how much more you have accomplished and how much better you feel about yourself you may never go back.